After my husband and I lost our daughter, we felt lost. We felt broken.
We were trying to support each other in every way we could but neither
of us felt like we were doing an exceptional job at it. Reaching out to
your organization was the best thing we could have ever done for
Our first session with Peter was such a blessing. He went over all the
stages of grief with us, which instantly helped. It felt good to know
what we were feeling was a normal part of the grieving process.
Understanding that anger and depression come with the territory of grief
was crucial to our healing.
Peter guided us through how to continue to be there for each other in
the healthiest ways. He never judged us, or told us we weren't doing
things correctly. He offered suggestions without criticism and it made
us feel like we were already on the right track.
I could truly go on and on about our experience with him but so much of
it is so personal and so close to our hearts I will just leave you with
this; we gained an angel in heaven when we lost our daughter, and then
we found one here on earth with Peter. We will forever be grateful to
him for his guidance, understanding, and compassion.
MG, Salinas, CA
Public Service Announcement -
National Alliance for Grieving Children poll
Contact: Leigh Susan Fitz
Executive Director, Arms of Angels
A recent poll conducted by the National Alliance for Grieving Children
found that kids who have lost a parent or sibling bear a burden of
sorrow and anxiety, yet they strive to be resilient in the face of their
grief and greatly value the support of friends, family and the
community, according to the results of this first-ever nationwide poll
of bereaved children. For grieving kids, resuming normal life following
loss demands successfully navigating the school day. For many, this
task becomes harder. Nearly half of kids say they are having more
trouble concentrating on school work and about three in 10 say they are
not doing as well in school as before. Just 27 percent say that going
to school after their loss was helpful. The poll suggests that schools
are challenged to provide meaningful support to kids in grief. When
asked to grade their school and teachers on "helping me deal with my
loved one's death," many kids assigned them either a "C" (15 percent), a
"D" (10 percent) or an "F" (23 percent).
Dealing with the death of a loved one is crushing, the findings show.
Three quarters (75%) of the kids surveyed say they are currently sad -
even though, for the survey sample, the loss was experienced on average
more than two years ago. Nearly seven of 10 kids agree the death of
their loved one was the worst thing that ever happened to them. More
than two in five (41 percent) said that in reaction to their loss they
had acted in ways that they knew might not be good for them either
physically, emotionally or mentally.
Bereavement centers and grief counseling programs have a critical role
to play in fostering a helpful, healthy dialogue within families about
loss. A new grief counseling service is available free of charge to
Monterey County residents. The program, called 'Arms of Angels', will be
held at the Center for Spiritual Living in downtown Monterey at 400 West
Franklin Street on Thursdays evenings. Pre-registration is necessary
for joining. Children ages 5-19 are welcome and they must be accompanied
by a parent. For more information and to register go to ArmsofAngels.org
or contact the Executive Director at 831-521-3672.
Here are other valuable resources for grieving families and concerned
- "The Grief Journey of a Child," an online brochure offered by the
New York Life Foundation, is focused on helping individuals help kids
and families who are grieving. The brochure includes key research
findings, testimony from kids talking about grief in their own words, a
perspective on childhood grief from a leading bereavement expert, and
some tips and resources for concerned friends of all ages.
offered by the New York Life Foundation,
provides additional informational and educational resources for parents,
kids, educators and the public regarding loss.
offered by the National Alliance for
Grieving Children, includes guides for parents and educators, resources
for professionals and volunteers providing support to grieving children,
and an interactive map identifying family bereavement centers across the
About the Poll
The New York Life Foundation/National Alliance for Grieving Children
(NAGC) poll was conducted in-person at bereavement centers during group
sessions between November 21, 2011 and January 5, 2012. Children and
teenagers under the age of 19 were given printed copies of the survey,
customized with questions pertaining to the gender and type of family
member they lost (parent or sibling). An adult Group Leader read each
question and response category aloud, allotting time for every
participant to answer. Surveys were immediately sealed in an envelope
and sent to New York Life Foundation for data processing. Participation
in the survey was strictly voluntary and all answers remained
confidential. In a similarly sized random sample survey, the margin of
error (at the 95% confidence level) for the total population in this
study (531) would be plus or minus approximately 4.3 percentage points.
The question "How long ago did your loved one die?" was answered by 497
respondents; the mean response was 2.2 years. The polling was overseen
by Mathew Greenwald & Associates, a premier full service market research
firm headquartered in Washington, D.C.